If this is your first time to visit Hug All the Moms. Welcome. This blog is where I share my heart about being a mom, wife, and Jesus follower. Maybe you stumbled over here because you know the mom we are featuring? For the newbies, you can read the whole purpose behind Hug All the Moms HERE IN THIS POST, or I can just give you a little snippet.
What: An initiative to enlighten moms about other moms from different walks of life in an effort to aid some relief to the mommy wars and give us all some insight to each other’s lives.
Who: Working moms, stay-at-home moms, single moms, divorced moms, mixed family moms, step-moms, adoptive moms, home school moms, moms of multiples, moms of a ton of kids, soon-to-be moms, wish to be moms, special needs moms, and all the other moms to the moon and back
Why: Thinking I had it all figured out, in my early years as a mom, I was quite judgmental about all moms who had not chosen a way of life like mine, i.e. stay-at-home vs. work, Baby Wise vs. attachment parenting, organic vs. non-organic, etc. The more children I have and the older I get, I have learned that all the moms out there have the best interest of their child at heart and that is all that should really matter to any of us. Sometimes we all just need another mom to tell us we are doing a great job and give us a big hug.
This week’s Hug All the Moms features Sarah Rouse, a momma of two little boys, ages five and two. I actually met Sarah through the Internets. She liked my photo on IG, I followed her page and contacted her, and the rest is history. As luck would have it, we live pretty near each other too! Have you noticed the cute photos of my boys wearing some awesome stuff lately? It all came from Sarah’s online company– Rock-a-Boy. Ya’ll, I am serious dying over some of the stuff. What I would’ve given to have options like these when Michael Jr (now 8) was a babe. It’s totally my hip, unique style. Sarah is also kindly offering all of my readers a 20% off purchase code on her entire site!!! Enter code: beccadarling at checkout!
Here is what Sarah had to say about her very busy and full life!
What is your day job?
Well my day job is working as an account manager for a large internet retailer – a pretty standard office job. In addition (which is technically my night job), I own and run an online all-boys boutique: Rock-a-boy Apparel (www.rockaboy.com).
What other activities are you involved in?
Frankly, right now my “activity” is my business, since everything is done outside of normal business hours. Between that and spending lots of quality time with my kiddos, I don’t have time for much else. But, as they say, this is a season that shall pass, and then I’ll finally make it to a PTO meeting!
What religion, if any, do you and your family practice?
We are nondenominational Christians
Do you feel like this has shaped the type of mom you are?
I think it’s given me the confidence in myself to know what my purpose is as a mom. The biggest, most important lessons the Bible—teaching of love and kindness to others—are the same ones that are the most important for me to instill in my kids. Christianity provides the perfect model for how to live well and love others. Everything I try to do in my life, as a mom and otherwise, boils down to love.
Give us a glimpse into your daily life; a sample schedule of one day in your shoes.
I am awoken before dawn either by my ridiculously early alarm, or by an adorable 2-year-old. I shower, dress & ready my kids for school, drop one of my two kids at school (my husband takes the other), and then embark on my hour-long commute to the office. Work my 8 hours, then trek another hour home (you can tell I just LOVE the commute). Pick up one of my kids, scramble to figure out what we’ll eat for dinner, play with the kids, perform the daunting task of getting them ready for and into bed. I spend the hours after they go to bed getting ready for the next day, doing chores, working on my business, spending time with my husband, or none of the above if I fall asleep at 8:30 (which does happen fairly regularly).
If you had twenty-four hours all to yourself, what would you do?
Sleep until I feel like waking up (no one calling my name before the sun is up). Shop. Get a vanilla chai and drink it from a mug—not a to-go cup—inside my favorite local coffee shop (Snug on the McKinney square). Read; maybe even read a whole book in one sitting. Take a bath, then watch a Jane Austen movie in my bed. Go back to sleep in the exact middle of the bed and sleep like a starfish.
What is your favorite thing to do with your kids?
I like snuggling with them on the couch, because I know they won’t want to snuggle forever. The moments they want to be close to me, cuddling and holding hands, is precious and I treasure it.
When your kids go to bed at night, what do you find yourself doing?
Sleeping… sometimes. Ha! If I can make it past the 9 p.m. hump of sleepiness, I usually hop on my computer and work on my business, or I pack lunches, load dishes, or make a late-night run to the grocery store. It’s basically when I get all those things done that I can’t accomplish when I’m working or when the kids are awake.
What is the single hardest part about your role as a mom?
Balancing the mom I want to be with the mom I am. We all have those aspirational visions of ourselves as the perfect mom who bakes, builds LEGO towers, writes thank-you notes on time, remembers birthdays and baby showers, never forgets the backpack or school snack, attends PTO meetings, makes pancakes for breakfast in the morning, etc. But what we’re able to accomplish can vary from what we’d like to accomplish, and that can be difficult to accept. I try to constantly remind myself that the most important thing for my kids is that they feel loved. Everything else is secondary.
What do you envy about other moms?
Often (especially lately) I envy moms who are able to stay home with their kids. I wrestle with my desire to have a career and have the financial security and freedoms that we are able to have from a 2-income household, and the craving I have to just be home and spend as much time with my kiddos as possible.
I hope ya’ll enjoyed hearing about Sarah! She has a full plate. Reading her answers reaffirmed why I have set out to do this. If I had met Sarah a few years ago I would have been all Judgey McJudgerson over a career woman raising kids and also trying to start an at home business on top of it. Maybe you would have too? But just like you, and me, clearly Sarah adores her kiddos. At the end of the day, she just needs a big Hug. #Hugallthemoms
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