***Just an update. I wrote this Part 4 of Song of Solomon and I am feeling a little burned out. My drive for the topic doesn’t seem to be shining through. I write as an outlet and this particular thing has become tasking. I will be in prayer this week on the best next step for Sexy Sunday and how or if to continue this journey through Song of Solomon. I feel the ‘deadline’ of this is taking away from other things that are currently stirring in my heart. So agree with me in prayer or send me a message if you have any thoughts. —xoxo
It’s been a crazy week around here with classroom parties and Halloween and what knot. Now that those things have passed, I really have my heart set on writing a few more things rather than just the promised Sexy Sunday entries.
Let’s pick up with Song of Solomon 4. Last week we were in a dream. According to a few translations, we are still in the woman’s dream. This day is their wedding day. He spends the first part taking her in visually and telling her how beautiful she is. He starts with her eyes and then using poetic metaphors, works his way down her body.
Behold, you are beautiful, my love,
behold, you are beautiful!
Your eyes are doves
behind your veil.
Your hair is like a flock of goats
leaping down the slopes of Gilead.
2 Your teeth are like a flock of shorn ewes
that have come up from the washing,
all of which bear twins,
and not one among them has lost its young.
This is funny! He compliments her on the fact that she has all her teeth. To us that’s not a big deal but to their culture, a woman with all their teeth was a rarity.
3 Your lips are like a scarlet thread, and your mouth is lovely.
Your cheeks are like halves of a pomegranate behind your veil.
Your neck is like the tower of David, built in rows of stone; on it hang a thousand shields, all of them shields of warriors.
We have already discussed how she is not the ‘normal’ beauty. She’s a little more dark and weathered than other ladies. You can see here how he points out that she even has a long neck. But he finds her gorgeous no matter what. There may be perhaps some sort of dignity or power he sees in her with that long neck that he compares to the Tower of David. Our spouse is to be our standard of beauty. That means that our ‘type’ is whatever our spouse is. We adapt to that. So maybe you married your husband and he was tall, dark, & athletic but now he is tall, grayish-baldish, and with a little more around the middle to hold on to. He is still your standard of beauty. Gentlemen this goes for you also. Ladies, I’m not saying let yourself go, by any means. Ya’ll know I am way too vain for that. But there are seasons in life like after we’ve just had a baby or when we start getting those forehead lines where our spouse should love us exactly as we are. There are things that come with age and we can do nothing about. If there is true intimacy in the heart, the aging of that person will just make them even more attractive because each line on the face and each stretch mark on the tummy will represent time and memories together.
5 Your two breasts are like two fawns, twins of a gazelle, that graze among the lilies.
I love this! I remember reading this as a teenager snickering and thinking “This is so weird.” If you think about it in the terms of 3,000 years ago, it’s not that odd. When I think of fawns I think of Bambi. And when I think of Bambi, I think “Awwww, how sweet.” Who wouldn’t want to pet two baby deer? They are soft, sleek, and well, adorable. Men love to pet the breasts, and clearly they have since the beginning of time. Man, I’d love it if Hot Husband told me mine were like baby deer. As a friend of mine says, after 3 kids it’s more like rocks in socks.
Until the day breathes
and the shadows flee,
I will go away to the mountain of myrrh
and the hill of frankincense.
He just wants to be with her and breathe her in. This mention of ‘mountain’ could also perhaps still be him continuing to talk about her breasts. See– I told you. Fascination since the beginning of time.
Fragrances are mentioned here- myrrh & frankincense. If you’ll remember, frankincense & myrrh were special that’s what the wise men brought baby Jesus. So let’s talk about pheromones. Pheromones are the body’s natural scent. Everyone of us has a different aroma. For example, I wear Chanel Mademoiselle and so do several of my friends, but it smells different on each of us because of our natural pheromones. You know how your husband smells when he comes in from work or when he first wakes up in the morning and he hasn’t washed off ‘his scent’ with soap? That’s my favorite. I don’t prefer the freshly showered & aftershave smell. There’s no warmth to it. I like his natural odor, you know? Your brain recognizes that scent as your mate and triggers a response to that specific person.
7 You are altogether beautiful, my love; there is no flaw in you. 8
Come with me from Lebanon, my bride; come with me from Lebanon.
Depart from the peak of Amana, from the peak of Senir and Hermon,
from the dens of lions, from the mountains of leopards.
These are all mountains he is mentioning. He is calling her away from anywhere she might be far from him and wanting her to stay with him. They may travel all over to desolate places, but their love will be the peak, as long as they are together.
9 You have captivated my heart, my sister, my bride;
you have captivated my heart with one glance of your eyes,
with one jewel of your necklace.
Being that he is calling her his bride and they haven’t gotten married yet, this is why it is assumed she is still dreaming.
10 How beautiful is your love, my sister, my bride!
How much better is your love than wine, and the fragrance of your oils than any spice!
Notice how he calls her ‘sister’ a couple of times. Until a man and woman were married, he was to treat her with the same affections, respect, and dignity that he would a sister. Brothers & sisters in Christ. It continues even after marriage; your husband is still your brother in Christ and you should study the Bible with and pray with him.
11 Your lips drip nectar, my bride;
honey and milk are under your tongue;
the fragrance of your garments is like the fragrance of Lebanon.
He starts to get pretty sensual here. Earlier he was using his sense of sight to describe her physical attributes. Now he has moved on to describing her taste. Nectar, milk, and honey are all sweetly sought after. They are also often paired together as described in the Promised Land. So basically her kisses taste like heaven!
12 A garden locked is my sister, my bride,
a spring locked, a fountain sealed.
Garden has often been associated with a woman’s sexuality. He’s saying that his bride’s garden is locked for everyone but him. It’s not a public place, it’s private and all his. Ladies, the door to your garden is your mind and your heart. Even though your garden may not have had any other visitors, if they have entered the gate in your heart and mind, they will soon end up in the courtyard. So put the lock on and don’t open the door for strangers.
13 Your shoots are an orchard of pomegranates with all choicest fruits, henna with nard,
He’s continuing the garden talk here. Hers has ‘choice fruits’. It’s full of all these expensive, rare foods and spices. It all plays into his senses- the way she looks, the way she smells, and the way she tastes.
14 nard and saffron, calamus and cinnamon,
with all trees of frankincense,
myrrh and aloes,
with all choice spices—
15 a garden fountain, a well of living water,
and flowing streams from Lebanon.
For us, clean water is not an issue. But back then the best water was living, flowing water, not ground or sitting water. Water represents life!! Her special garden represents live and vitality to him.
16 Awake, O north wind,
and come, O south wind!
Blow upon my garden,
let its spices flow.
Up until this point, there’s been a lot of “Dont’ wake love before it’s time.” Well, now friends it’s time. She is saying Awake!! Go ahead, get close to my garden. Get those spices flowing and let’s get it heated up in here.
Let my beloved come to his garden,
and eat its choicest fruits.
And here is where we go back to the oral, but this time with the ladies on the receiving end. (Ladies I told you it was coming!) She is inviting him. She feels loved and safe. God wants to us feel safe naked with our spouse, physically and emotionally. His desire is for us to thoroughly enjoy each other and each other’s body. Adam and Eve were naked once and when they were they were close to God, all before sin entered the world. When we are naked and close to our spouse, we are close to God as well.
So go this week. Think about your spouse as being your standard of beauty and partake in some choice fruits!!