Go to your google box and type in “Christmas g”– the 3rd thing that pops up in the drop down list is “christmas gifts for him”. Why? Because men are hard to shop for. Most of them pretty much purchase anything they may need or want. Women love giving gifts so we are searching the internet like crazies for THE perfect gift for the man in our life.
Well ladies, you are in luck. I did a little market research with some men and the votes are in. Surprisingly, many of the things they actually want, are things money can’t buy.
10. Not Another Personalized Flask (money clip, wallet, grill set, apron, or anything else you can monogram)
How many does he already have? Men are not #tokensouthernwhitegirls , they do not need nor want a monogram on everything they own. If you insist on something tangible, buy him an article of clothing that he would never pick out for himself, with a note telling him how hot he would look in it and how it might look better on the floor.
9. Nothing You Don’t Want Him To Use
Don’t buy him new golf clubs if you don’t want him to head out on Christmas morning at 9am to use them. And tech stuff? Raise your hand if your honey plays video games? Don’t buy them for him if you’re just going to complain about him playing them. Fair enough? If gadgets and toys are more his thing, buy something you can both enjoy using together…you know…in the bedroom…. 😉
8. Nothing You Saw On Pinterest
Nothing says “Hey, sexy father of my children” like a bag of Doritos and a plastic football. Wrong. Repeat after me ladies, “I will not make my man a cutesy gift basket.” Men DO NOT care about the “cute” factor or the hours you spent crafting cute little handmade tags and a basket to contain his other wise lame gift. Skip it and save the pin-worty stuff for your grandma and girlfriends. Instead, buy him a case of his favorite craft six-pack or favorite bottle of whiskey– sans cutesy tag.
7. Freedom to Not Be Jolly
Unless they are my 8 year old son, most men are not Buddy the Elf. They don’t get as excited as you do about visiting Santa, tree lighting festivals, making gingerbread houses, ice skating, and watching your kid shake a jingle bell at his preschool performance. And guess what– that is okay. Don’t be offended. Be happy he is there and don’t expect a song and dance when you’re standing in that 3 hour line for Santa.
6. Permission to Skip At Least 1 ‘Holiday’ Thing
(see above) He doesn’t have to be as excited as you. Save yourself the disappointment and take your kids with a girlfriend and hers.
5. A Chance to Unwind with His Boys
Have him invite his friends over to your house. You can decorate, cook, and go all Christmas crazy and entertain them. You score points with him for making him look good with his friends, and he gets a chance to hang with his bros. It’s a win- win for everybody.
4. A Fun Activity
Want to score ‘cool’ points with an active or outdoorsy dude? Arrange an activity like sports car driving, sailing lessons, or zip-lining. Or plan a getaway for hiking, fishing, hunting, etc. Your guy is more ‘indoorsy’ like mine? Maybe a night to a grown up play place like Dave & Busters or the shooting range? I bet he would especially love it if you came along and had some fun, too! Check out sites like LivingSocial or Groupon for these things!
3. Unsolicited Sex
Yes. I said that. It’s a stressful time of year for all of us. ‘End of year/quarter’ for most men who work in a business. And full on craft-shopping-baking- decorating mode for the ladies. You are probably pre-occupied and he may be too scared to ask. Save him the trouble and surprise him by pursuing him for a change. Make it even more fun! Order something for both of you to play with from one of these. My favorite place for things like this is The Pure Bed (they sell these fun things on a site with no nudity and no porn).
2. A Getaway With You
When was the last time you had time alone with your man? This month you have probably used your babysitters more than normal, but I’d guess it hasn’t been for date night or time away for just the two of you. With all the parties, socializing, and fa-la-la-ing, it’s time for the two of you to connect. Bonus points for you if you plan the whole thing– whether it’s just a simple date night or even a full on vacay!
1. Silent Night (or Day)
The #1 answer given by the men I asked, may not sound too merry & bright for us ladies. But space, peace, and quiet is something most men never get in a day. Men have so much to carry, and we often forget that. Men carry the responsibility of working, providing financially for the family, supporting us emotionally, and trying to divvy up the child-care responsibilities. At this time of year, he has so much on his plate.
So give your man the gift of peace. Take the kids, go to your parent’s or to a friends. Let your man rest, no questions asked. Give him time to center himself and rejuvenate. You will thank yourself for it in the long run. Then, maybe when he’s done– go back to #3. When in doubt– always #3.
If you’re still stuck and need to buy something. I did run across this cool site– http://coolmaterial.com/gift-guide/ Their catchline is “gifts that don’t suck.”
I’d love to know what you are planning for your man!