Have you ever noticed that we women always have a ‘thing‘? A ‘thing‘ meaning something we are carrying or pursuing. Maybe it’s a position at school or church, a classroom party, a new business venture, the latest Pinterest project, or even therapy for a child? Whatever it is, women always have something we are striving for with a dreamy end in mind.
The Pastor’s wife of our old church wrote a book called The Blessed Woman- Learning About Grace From the Women of the Bible. Eve was the first woman. Being the first woman that means she was the first woman to ever be pregnant and deliver a baby. She had no girlfriends or mom to talk to about how her body was changing and her morning sickness. I’m sure she freaked when labor started. I’ve birthed 3 babies myself and I can’t even imagine the horror of trying to do it alone and naked in the woods with nothing but some leaves and a man who let me eat that darn apple. Poor Adam in his loin cloth was of no help I can assure you. But do you know who was there? God. With the help of God, she brought forth man and life to the human race. Even though she had disappointed Him and not obeyed, He was still there every second. From conception, carrying the baby, to delivery and on after. God had created her for this specific purpose. Her destiny. Her calling. She was to be the first woman, the first wife, and the mother of us all. God’s unending love is what got her through it all. (Gen 4:1).
excerpt from pg 11 “Eve showed us that we as woman are, above all, divinely created to be springs of life: To conceive, carry, bring forth and nurture that which will enliven the world. God has woven it into our DNA the capacity to give birth and mother- not just physically but spiritually.”
While you may not be carrying an actual baby like Eve, you as a woman, are more than likely carrying something: a vision, a hope, a plan, or a dream. God has impregnated you with something that you are supposed to carry, birth, and nurture– just like you would a child. Because HE gave you this metaphorical baby, He is not going to leave you alone. If you trust in His plan and allow for His will to play out, that baby will come and you will nurture it to full-grown.
I’ve always been a dreamer; playing out these fantasies in my head of how everything should look. I can always see the end result, some big pretty picture, but it’s the middle part that I often struggle with. That’s true with everything in my life. With pregnancy, I can see the labor and holding that precious babe. But the growing belly, emotional loop de loop, swelling, and glorious hemorrhoids was never something I figured out how to embrace and lean on the Lord for. Even decorating my house, I can tell you the exact Pin I want it to look like, but putting all the little pieces together is where I struggle. It’s the tedious hard stuff in the middle that I always get hung up on. I rely on my emotion and get too busy to fuss with the details. And right now, with my current vision I am pregnant with, I am in the messy middle. God is pruning me, stripping me of pride and vanity. I’m being pushed out of my fear and comfort level to share.
Maybe you are opposite of me though? Maybe you spend too much time on each little detail never fulfilling the vision or project? Never getting to that end result? Maybe you are pregnant with like 6 things at once and lack the focus to hone in on one specific thing God is calling you to? Maybe you love the process of ‘carrying’ that vision or dream, but have no idea what to do with it once it gets here. Maybe you have a ‘baby’ and enjoy every minute of being ‘pregnant’ but you are scared to death when that baby gets here. Thankfully, He is there still. Guiding you and showing you how to nurture what He has given you.
Hot Husband is really gifted in the area of motivating and training people. Looking at their vision, or their ‘baby’ they are carrying, he helps them figure out the best way to birth it or bring it forth to the world. God has impregnated me with this vision of reaching women, encouraging them in their marriage, letting the Holy Spirit work though me to move their hearts with my words. I can see what that end goal looks like. Blogging? yes. Speaking, maybe? A book, perhaps? End result—> Women called out to love Jesus, their husbands, and their families. But how do I actually get there?
What are you pregnant with right now? This week? This month? This year?
A goal writing exercise is what Hot husband suggested I do as a jumping off point. What I realize is that right now I am in the ‘messy middle’. Maybe seeing my goals will encourage you to create your own to help you carry out whatever ‘baby’ God has given your right now.
60 Day Goals For Darling Unleashed
Starting September 1———Ending November 1
1. Publish 2 posts/week.
2. Publish 1 sponsor post/month.
3. Monthly page views to average 3,000.
4. Grow email subscribers to 100.
5. Connect with 3 other ‘pro-bloggers’ (bloggers who have 2K+ followers/readers)
6. Establish 4 paid sponsors
7. Book 1 speaking engagement.
8. Spend more actual time reading the actual Word.
Dear God, Thank you for being YOU, Father. Thank you for being everything your Word says you are. You are bigger and more amazing than anything. Thank you for the desires and dreams you have put in my heart to reach other women. I pray that the women who read this and other parts of my writing would be touched in some way and see your great love shining through in my typed words. Thank you for creating women to be so special and tender. Thank you for giving the ability to carry dreams and grow visions. I pray that my written words would accurately reflect everything you have put in my heart. I pray that this will grow as you have intended it to do so. Keep my heart humble. Take away any pride that may come and let everything point right back to you, Jesus. Without you and your grace– me, this life, this blog, my writing– it’s all nothing. You are the source of everything. God thank you for Unleashing your power and love in my life. Your Darling, Becca